That was the response I gave to the question asked. I don’t have anyone right now to know the answer as to why I want him to marry me. Am I supposed to? Wait, what? I don’t get it. Do you?
Ok, to clear things up, no; I’m not getting married.
I was having a conversation with someone, whom I will be referring to as my mentor from now on, and he kind of opened up my eyes to a new sense of thinking.
I mean, everyone says, “Before you do anything, you must first make a plan.”
I say, “Eh…nothing ever goes as planned anyways.”
Every girl wants to get married at some point in her life. We, harari girls, are different. We don’t just want to get married; we want to get married in our early 20’s. In most cases, this is true; they do get married early. I honestly don’t mind when I get married; I just don’t want to be 40 years old still living with my parents. I said that to my mentor and he posed that question.
Why do you want him to marry you?
Who? What do you mean WHY? I didn’t get it!! AHH!
Do you want him to marry you because he loves your personality and who you are or do you want him to marry you because you are young and fresh?
(Well, he didn’t say “young and fresh” he used a different set of words.)
It makes sense now, right?
A man should want to marry the girl based on what’s inside and not the opposite. He should be able to communicate well, connect, and have fun with her. If he is marrying her because she’s young, fresh and whatever else, he’s just not the one. What’s going to happen after some years when she is 38 and with children? Most likely, he is still going to be interested in a young, fresh chick.
Life is always about choices. Which route should you take? And when should you take those routes? Should you get married as early as possible? Should you just focus on you, your education and your career, then let the chips fall where they may?
It is important to think about all factors when making these kinds of life altering decisions. Women shouldn’t just get up and say, “yes” to any marriage proposal that may come their way just because they’re afraid they won’t be asked that question again.
I want him to marry me because he loves to talk, laugh, chill, joke, and be spontaneous with me.
I don’t want him though, one day when we get in a fight, to ask himself, “why did I get married?!”
[By writing this blog, I’m not trying to pick on anyone who chooses the other route in life; I’m just talking personally and what I want.]