The Perfect Man:
- Tall (-er than me at least)
- Cooks, sometimes
- Be honest to me
- Not flirt with anyone, harmless or what not
- Live in Ethiopia (eventually)
- Be open minded
….and the list goes on and, on. We all have this thing set in our minds about how our perfect “mate” should be and how they should act. Everyone has it, whether you are a woman seeking a man or a man seeking a woman, we all know exactly what we want.
The question is: how are we going to be for that person? How does my perfect man wants me act, how I should be, how I should look?
A friend brought this up to me today and I was instantly hooked. I have never really thought about the kind of woman I would be to “him”. I’ve thought about what kind of woman I’m going to be for myself…. but not as far as what kind of wife I’d be.
In this world, and mainly in Ethiopia, we are somehow “stuck” (I really don’t want to use that word but I think I have to) in some kind of norm.
- The woman should always be in the kitchen
- Man should be the provider
Blah blah blah…
I believe that we can seriously play any role now-a-days, right? Now-a-days where we are all considered equal, we can do whatever we want. So, I’ve been doing some thinking of the kind of woman I want to be to “him”, and came up with this. (for now)
The Perfect Me:
- Cooks, all the time
- Make bed/do laundry, all the time (not the traditional way but thank humans for their super duper washing machines. 😉 )
- Always be there when needed
- Not nag/be too clingy
- Fulfill all needs
- Trust completely
Of course, my list goes on and on as well. Being perfect is not a necessity; as there is no such thing as perfect, but I’d like to come close to it as possible.
Love, I believe, is when you get so close to a person that you feel so comfortable with everything and your insecurities vanish. So, if not insecure, why be jealous? If not jealous, why nag/cling? righhht?
As life goes on, I learn more and more everyday. This time, I learned that if someone says that they love you and they are with you, it’s because they want to. Do not keep nagging daily saying, “but, why me?” I’ve learned (the hard way) that this just drives them away.
So learning this brings change in me, ultimately, adds to my list of “The Perfect Me”.